Ian Althouse
At the CTL this semester, I have the opportunity to run a workshop
alongside my co-facilitator Stuart Duncan in which we will explore a teaching
fellow’s role beyond the classroom. One of these roles can and likely will be
developing a mentoring relationship with our students and that’s what has
inspired this blog post that you’re reading now!
In preparation for this workshop, I wanted to see what others had been
saying about mentoring especially as it pertained to academia. As it turned
out, the last few years have seen much discussion of mentoring in academia.
Time and again, authors discussed the same two questions: how does one mentor
well, and how does one become a mentor? From this pair of questions, there has
even arisen a debate
about what we mean when use the word mentor.
Are we discussing an active verb, to
mentor, or an inactive noun, a mentor?
I want to think about that debate for a moment. If we conceive of
mentoring as a verb, that puts a lot, if not all, of the agency in the hands of
the mentor. This idea gives me pause because it turns the mentee into a passive
recipient of the mentor’s guidance. Shouldn't our mentees be active learners?
And yet, I don’t believe an effective mentor can ever be, like a noun, entirely
inactive.
In the end, what I concluded was that trying to define this word as noun
or verb was insufficient. Mentor is
too rich a word. We need to embrace that mentor
can be either active or inactive as the situation demands. A student seeks
out his or her mentor. In this, the mentor is inactive. However, once in the
role of mentor, the mentor transforms into an active participant in the
mentee’s life.
But if we can’t solely discuss mentoring as a verb, and if agency in
this relationship is divided between mentors and mentees, how do we become mentors? If students need to seek
us out, we need to show that we are ready and willing to be found. That means
we need to be approachable. We need to show them that we are here, we
are present, and we are listening.
So, as I read through various articles, I compiled a list of the things
that we, as teaching fellows or as professors, can do or keep in mind to show
our availability in fostering meaningful mentor-mentee relationships:
· Chatting with students: This may not
always have to do with academics and may not be a formal meeting in your
office, but consider accompanying a student to their next class to continue a
conversation or grab a coffee with them one afternoon.
· Confidence, trust, and unanxious expectations: Your mentee
needs to find that they feel these elements in their relationship with you;
working or meeting with you should not be cause for added stress.
· Commitment: Following up
with students and following through on your word shows your investment in your
mentee.
· Seeing the student holistically: They are not
just students in your class, but people with a host of factors affecting their
lives.
· A student-centered relationship: It’s easy to
tell a student your opinions, but mentoring really happens when we listen to
our students and help them hear themselves.
· A collaborative and dialectical
relationship: We as mentors
must try to learn from our mentees just as they are learning from us—what do
they need and how do they work?
· Time: It takes time to mentor someone, so you’ll need to
put time into getting to know your mentee.
· Cyclical: Good mentors
inspire new generations of good mentors.
We consistently see in course evaluations that those instructors who
genuinely noticed and paid attention to a student stood out and often factored
into a student’s reflections on the university as a whole. What this shows us
is that when our students look for a mentor, they are looking for a genuine
connection with another person who they trust, respect, and admire. Students
are searching for authentic interpersonal relationships everywhere on campus.
Our students are seeking connections to people and these relationships are the
memories students will carry with them for a lifetime.
If you are interested in reading more about why we should mentor, the
state of mentoring in academia, and other instructors’ experiences, I would
encourage you to take a look at some of the following links: